Being a parent is a tough job to handle. One of the most difficult tasks for parents is disciplining their children. Parents have developed different ways of disciplining a child. Some parents are firm, while others are too soft not to bear scolding and hitting their children. According to Bette Davis, “Discipline is a symbol of caring for a child. Discipline is a guide. If there is love, there is no such thing as being too harsh on a child.” There is truth in his words. Parents should discipline their children out of love, not because they want to prove something or make the child suffer. Unfortunately, there are parents who do not yet know the difference between reasonable corporal punishment and abuse. As a result, more than five children die every day as a result of child abuse. To better understand, let’s list the most common ineffective ways to discipline a child.
Screams
Abuse is defined as anything that is harmful, harmful, or offensive. It includes physical, spiritual, sexual and emotional aspects. According to statistics, verbal abuse or belittling a child with offensive and tiny statements can cause more lasting harm than sexual abuse. Yelling and yelling at your child is a form of verbal abuse. It is important for parents to understand that yelling will never help the child understand the situation. Yelling can only reduce a child’s self-confidence.
Embarrass
Shame is the same as publicly humiliating a child. There are several cases in which parents force a child to carry a sign in public, which reveals the things that he has done wrongly. There are parents who think that humiliation is a quick fix. But experts believe that this kind of discipline is wrong. Shaming a child in public is a form of emotional abuse. Children who suffer this type of punishment or discipline often commit suicide because they feel that they are rejected by the world and that their own parents do not care about them.
Threatening
As a last resort, many parents unwittingly turn to threats as a way to discipline their children. The threats can be as clear as not going to the party if a task is not done or as horrible as spanking or hitting the child. Parents should remember that a threat does not teach a child anything about the sensible and practical consequences of behavior. To avoid this kind of discipline, try not to use phrases like “If you don’t do your homework, you will be punished,” which is very negative. Be more positive and less punitive. Alternatively, you can change it to “As soon as you are done with your homework, you can go out with your friends and play.”
Postponement
Ignoring can be an effective and ineffective discipline style. It can be effective when a child has tantrums. You can ignore the behavior, but make sure the child is safe. On the other hand, ignoring becomes bad when a parent no longer cares about the child, for example, ignoring the behavior of their child hitting another person.
Certainly there are no perfect parents. One can fall short and get caught up in anger. Remember that anger can bring out the worst in us and can lead to reckless decisions. The main role of parents is to protect the child from abuse and not to initiate the abuse. If you are concerned about your parenting skills, you may want to get in touch with people who can help you learn the proper disciplinary skills, such as your child’s doctor or reputable parenting groups.
