It’s been 45 years since Mick Jagger spoke about how he “can’t get any satisfaction.” One of the most memorable lines from that song is “…I’m trying to make a girl say to me ‘baby she better come back, maybe next week’ because you’ll see I’m on a losing streak.” Well, from what I’ve been able to gather, Mick got over his “losing streak” pretty quickly.
And if you’re in one right now, you will too. And if you are NOT in one? Well, I’m about to show you how to make sure it NEVER HAPPENS. But first, I think it’s necessary to clarify what generally CAUSES a “losing streak” to begin with. To say that one is on a “losing streak” (or “on a losing streak” if you will) implies that there was a time when one was WINNING. There has been a CLEAR SHIFT of fortune in the southern direction.
Almost always, the onset of such a depression can be traced to a particularly bad breakup or egregious incident of rejection by a particular woman. Think about that as we go over these FOUR KEY WAYS to end a “losing streak”, because it’s going to be VERY IMPORTANT to keep in mind.
Here we go…
1) COME BACK THERE
Call this the “macro” version of the “three second rule.” Just as you’re wise to wait no more than three seconds after deciding to approach a woman to REALLY DO IT, don’t wait more than THREE DAYS after a particularly bad breakup to start MEETING WOMEN again.
Sure, I know you’ve been hit pretty hard. But the longer you wait to get your Match.com profile, talk to women on Twitter, and/or start conversations with bank tellers and waitresses, the more likely “analysis paralysis” will set in.
And I know you. You are a particularly smart crowd that is especially prone to this problem. You know, on second thought, it would be best not to wait more than THREE HOURS after a woman bothers you to go out.
2) FORGET AND FORGIVE
You’ve heard the term “forgive and forget.” And you probably know how hard it is to do that. But I’ve noticed something interesting in the last few weeks, thanks to Facebook. I have really enjoyed reconnecting with old friends from high school and college. There have been some great conversations that have really made my day. But crazy, there have been at least TWO INCIDENTS where I ended a very interesting conversation with someone only to realize something amazing later. I had STOPPED TALKING to that person years ago because we were so mad at each other!
Today? Here’s the thing. She had clearly forgotten why we were so mad at each other. And apparently, so did the other person. What that tells me is how FOOLISH resentment and bitterness is, not to mention USELESS. All he does is eat YOU from the inside. And the simple fact that FORGETTING how someone has wronged you AUTOMATICALLY results in forgiveness was a sobering thought for me.
Time heals wounds… in a big way. So the question is simply this: can you INTERNALIZE that belief and use it to ACCELERATE the process? Can you really let go of the resentment you feel towards that woman for burning you? If you can, she will benefit you.
You can even call forgiveness your “best revenge,” if necessary, so you can sleep better at night.
So how does this END your “losing streak”? Simple. Forgiveness equals losing bitterness… losing bitterness equals attracting the women you deserve (for example, those who aren’t bitter). .
3) DO MORE OF WHAT YOU DO BEST
When you feel that you have “lost”, there is no better medicine to cure what ails you than to WIN. One of your first thoughts when you “lose” a woman should be to go out and WIN at something else. Intentionally focus on what is best and go out there and get a win. or two. Golden six. Make this RAPID FIRE.
I really don’t care if you’re a world-class karaoke, bowling, sales, or Wii expert. Go out and WIN. And do it FAST.
Because? Because you need to get your TRUST back where it should be.
The beauty of this whole concept is that once you gain CONFIDENCE anywhere, you can immediately carry that mindset over to your interactions with women. And that’s EXACTLY what you need when you’re on a “losing streak” with women.
4) PLEASE NOTE THAT “REBUILDING” DOES NOT HAVE TO TAKE ETERNITY
This last one is arguably the LEAST obvious one. There seems to be a pandemic belief that meeting someone new and starting a new relationship takes a LOT of TIME and a LOT of ENERGY. And what this belief does to someone who feels like they’ve been kicked out on the street is it FREEZES them in place.
The last thing we FEEL like doing when we’re feeling erratic is to START ALL AGAIN. It seems intimidating, if not downright depressing… but ONLY when the “limiting belief” I just described is in effect.
The tragic part is that meeting someone new and building an AMAZING relationship with her does NOT have to take a lot of time. In fact, the FASTER it happens, the more AUTHENTIC that connection will be.
Let’s say you meet a woman online for coffee. It may be TEN MINUTES before I say the magic words: “You know, I’ve known you for ten minutes, but it seems like we’ve known each other for TEN YEARS.”
And seriously, when you’re a “big four” man turning on femininity, you’re likely to be SURPRISED at how easy it is to get to know a great woman. That key idea of INSPIRING HER CONFIDENCE from her, making her feel safe and comfortable with you, is paramount here. Plus, when you think about it, what’s more exciting than finding out all the “scoops” with an amazing new woman? This should be PURE ADRENALINE, not heavy lifting. Touch the exact subject?
So what’s up? I’ve pretty much broken down here how “losing streaks” are all in YOUR HEAD, haven’t they?
Just like a major league designated hitter who’s on a hitting slump hasn’t really lost his talent, NOR HAVE YOU.
He’s hit .300 before, and he’ll do it again as soon as he snaps out of his slump and finds out who the hell he is. You were born to attract women.
Just because things went wrong with a woman doesn’t mean you’ve lost your mojo. You just have to be a man and claim your birthright. There is no time to feel sorry for yourself… ever. Put a diaper on that mentality.
