If you’ve ever tried to convince your girlfriend or a girl you’ve been dating lately to act out one of your sexual fantasies, you know how awkward and potentially embarrassing it can be. At best, she will simply refuse and say that she doesn’t like “it”. At worst, she’ll think you’re a freak and she’ll dump you.
So, naturally, when the topic of sexual fantasies is something most couples don’t feel comfortable talking about. There are some who even suggest that you NEVER share your sexual fantasies, as they can ruin a relationship by introducing a level of expectation that may be too much to bear.
But what if there was a way to not only express your sexual fantasies, but to do it in such a way that she would not only be eager to perform them for you, but would think they were her idea in the first place?
It requires some communication skills and a fair knowledge of her body, specifically her sexual response to you during sex, but it’s possible.
That is how.
When you’re having sex, pay attention to when she starts to approach orgasm. If you can, she stretches this out as long as you can. This is when the mind is most susceptible to suggestion. You have an incredible amount of rapport and your brain is flooded with wonderful chemicals.
Of course, this requires that you be able to withhold your own sexual climax while suggesting your fantasies to her in such a way that she thinks they are her idea.
Start by saying something normal that you would like to do, wait for her response, and then ask if she would like to do the same. For example, say:
“I want to do it on the couch, do you want to do it on the couch?”
Then, once he has repeated after you a few times, ask him to describe you in a little detail. By doing this, you will make the idea your own.
Continue like this, until she starts repeating what you’re suggesting, slowly transitioning from normal to your sexual fantasy, no matter how kinky and seemingly “out there” it is. Be patient, as it may take several sessions.
Do this with consistency and patience, and before you know it, your girl will be doing things for you and you that you never thought possible. This will undoubtedly have a wonderful effect on your overall relationship. And if you’re really brave, you’ll teach her this technique so she’ll feel comfortable using it on you.
Be careful not to misuse this. As mentioned above, the brain is extremely open to suggestions during times of high sexual arousal. You must be careful not to convince her to do something she will later regret, or worse. The human mind is very fragile and great care must be taken to respect its integrity.
