Regardless of whether someone is interested in personal development, they are probably familiar with the term “negative” feelings. In fact, they may even describe some of their own feelings in this way.
If this is the case, it will mean that some of your feelings will be seen as ‘positive’ and some of them will be seen as ‘negative’. Seeing them this way, they can usually see their ‘negative’ feelings as a problem.
For example
When it comes to ‘negative’ feelings, this will relate to: shame, guilt, sadness, fear and despair. If they ever experience one or more of these feelings, they will feel bad.
On the other hand, when it comes to ‘positive’ feelings, this will relate to: joy, hope, optimism, and happiness. If you ever experience one or more of these feelings, you will feel good.
Out of balance
Now, one could say that it is not going to be possible for one to always experience ‘positive’ feelings; that’s not how life works. Furthermore, if they always experienced these kinds of feelings, they would soon get used to them, causing them to lose their effect.
In other words, it is through being able to experience both sides of the emotional spectrum that one will be able to appreciate the ‘positive’ side. The other part of this is that your feelings are there to give you valuable feedback and are therefore neither negative nor positive.
Wrong
But putting that aside for the moment, if one experiences a lot of ‘negative’ feelings, it will be a challenge for them to appreciate the life they have been given. As a result of this, it will be essential for them to seek support.
If they don’t do this and continue as they are, their life could end up getting worse. The first step, of course, will be for them to realize that something is not right, because if they don’t get to that point, they won’t have to do anything with their lives.
Numbing the pain
However, if they do something to change their life, they could end up doing more harm than good. Ergo, by not being able to step back and see that you need help, you could end up taking or drinking something, for example.
This will allow them to feel better, but what it will not do is solve what is happening to them. Through external means, then, they will simply deny how they really feel.
The next step
If one can take a step back and seek help, one might end up searching online. This could be a time when they learn that they need to change their ‘negative’ thoughts.
The reason for this is that their ‘negative’ thoughts will be seen as the reason they have ‘negative’ feelings. Thus, by changing the thoughts they have, they will be able to experience more ‘positive’ feelings.
going forward
With this in mind, the next step will be for you to pay close attention to how you talk to yourself and begin to replace your ‘negative’ thoughts with ‘positive’ thoughts. Naturally, this is not going to happen immediately.
The key will be for you to be conscientious and diligent, and over time you will be rewarded for the time and effort you put into this area of your life. As the days and weeks go by, you should begin to experience more ‘positive’ feelings.
a part
The above approach may or may not work, and even if it does, it may not last. If it doesn’t work or just doesn’t last, one might believe that they need to move on, believing that they need to be patient.
Another way of looking at this would be to say that there is a good reason this approach won’t really work and that is because your ‘negative’ feelings are not caused solely by your thoughts. However, if one has come to believe that their thoughts create their feelings, something that is only half true, it can be difficult for them to accept this.
Going deeper, much deeper
Going back to what was said earlier about one’s feelings giving them valuable feedback, what needs to be investigated is why they would have these so-called ‘negative’ feelings. First of all, there is a strong possibility that your thoughts will trigger feelings that you already have inside.
Second, the feelings you see as ‘negative’ probably go back to a time in your life when you were being hurt or neglected. What this means is that although these feelings are now seen as ‘negative’, there was a time when they simply reflected reality.
connecting the dots
The problem is that since so many years may have passed since these experiences took place, your conscious mind will have forgotten everything that happened. The natural result of this is that these feelings will be perceived as “negative” by your conscious mind.
Whereas if they didn’t have a bunch of defenses in place and their conscious mind could remember what happened, this part of them would realize that these feelings may be “negative” now, but there was a time when they were just a reflex. of what they were experiencing. With this understanding in place, your current emotional experience would link back to the original context, making complete sense in the process.
Awareness
If one can relate to this and is ready to change their life, they may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.
With outside support, one will be able to overcome the emotional pain that has been locked up in their body.
