I want to challenge each of you to think of your wedding vows as the tool that will help you create the ultimate relationship prize: a marriage and partnership that reflects the love, passion, and intimacy you have right now, multiplied. .
I just read about the XPrize, a public contest aimed at promoting technological development that benefits humanity. The prize is $10 million dollars. It reminded me that writing strong, passionate, and purposeful wedding or wedding vows is a prize winner, even if you can’t put a dollar value on them.
This is how the XPrize works: a group of highly innovative and creative thinkers get together and make some visionary‘ with the purpose of achieving radical advances for the benefit of humanity.
The objective is to arrive at a project that people, companies and organizations can take on to help drive the progress of humanity. The winners receive the prize.
Take a look at some of the descriptions of the ‘visionism’ process I found in that XPrize article.
- aggressive brainstorming
- Wildly optimistic solutions
- synthesize ideas
- skeleton outline
- radical advances
- Ideas of frames and molds
- Propose all the reasons and emotions that underlie a position.
- Provide a role in recruiting and energizing members.
- take a look into the future
- Create an award model
Vision, ‘ For the two of you, it’s all about brainstorming and imagining your marriage and your life together. It’s a bit like taking a look at your future and then incorporating the results into your marriage or wedding vows.
Their vows are the promises they make to each other stating what they will do to keep the passion, intimacy, trust and humor alive forever. They are NOT sentimental reflections of how you feel. They are born from the vision they develop for their life together.
That’s why I want you to write alone a set of votes. Not two. Your votes are to reflect shared values and goals.
I want the two of you to sit together and dream, brainstorm and imagine what your marriage and relationship would be like as an ideal life in 2, 5, 10 or more years. You are experiencing many of those elements now. Use that passion to help you leap into the future.
Print the descriptions above. Keep them close.
The big question for you is this: “How are we going to keep the love and passion we have for each other alive and thriving instead of being diluted in a 50% divorce statistic?”
I challenge each of you to start talking about everything from sex and money to children and how you are going to give back to the world.
You can do this in the car, at breakfast or dinner, doing the dishes, making love.
You are creating an award model: sit down together and incorporate your vision into your wedding vows.
Then keep reading those wedding or marriage vows because that is how you continue to energize each other and the relationship. It is also a good opportunity to solve problems before they become too big to overcome.
Keep the prize in front of you.
Drive it with passion.
Hold it with optimism.
Live it every day!
I love you,
Rev. cute bards,
Helping couples create a dream and then live it!
