Learn the technique of sniffing out marital problems before they get out of hand. Becoming what John Gottman calls, the poop detector, can help you discover ways to save your marriage.
Sniffing out trouble spots
However, discovering marital poop is not always easy. She must learn to identify the most common clues that something is wrong in her marriage. Ask yourself the following questions to identify potential problem areas that may need attention.
– Have you been feeling irritable and not yourself lately?
– Do you feel emotionally distant from your spouse?
– Do you just want to be somewhere other than here?
– Have you felt alone?
– Do you feel like you’re always angry?
– Do you feel out of touch and away from your spouse?
– Would you like to feel closer to your spouse?
– Have you been feeling tension between you two lately?
John Gottman recommends a periodic review of these common problems to control any problems. Each of these indicates some degree of communication disruption. He learns to express his true opinion on these issues with his spouse.
Reviewing these topics regularly is a great way to keep the lines of communication open between you and your spouse. You will find that, with practice, these conversations will become easier and your relationship will improve with each attempt to communicate your true and deepest feelings.
You can do it only if you need it
If you think you have some marital problems but you’re not sure you’re ready to work them out with your spouse, you can change your marital views without your knowledge.
You can incorporate the powerful technique of visualization to help you save your marriage relationship. Simply put, you visualize your partner as the loving and caring spouse you truly believe they can be.
When you use this visualization technique, you are creating an image of your spouse for your subconscious mind. It is the image of the spouse you want. Over time, your mind will begin to see this visualization as part of your new reality.
Sounds easy, but it’s often hard to sustain for extended periods, especially if your expectations are lower than they should be.
It is impractical to expect overnight success with visualization, but with consistent effort you will begin to experience positive effects in your life and marriage.
